Young people were forced to undergo electro-convulsive therapy (ECT) without anaesthesia, face lengthy, unjustified stints in solitary confinement, be trapped in physical restraints and were subjected to sexual assault, rape, improper strip searches and vaginal examinations, verbal abuse and racial slurs. Getting Adopted and Physical Abuse. I called the fire department to let them know I was going to start the fire and made sure they had the address. That night I cried and was sitting by the bedroom door in fear of being hurt again. My sister and I had monthly visits with our parents while in foster care and never missed any of them. âThe authorities need to take responsibility.â. My mother has a long list of mental issues and my father was an alcoholic and thankfully not the abusive type. I'm not going to use real names, but I will use the initials of their names. What I found out later in life is that the social workers in my county hated conflict and paperwork, so they would always give the foster homes a heads up on visits. Now that she adopted me and my sister we were no longer protected by the foster care system. The toddler at the center of a foster care child abuse case died as a result of numerous head and internal injuries and also had some healed wounds and extensive bruising, according to an affidavitâ¦ I go to this two year college and get a Associates Degree in Computer Science. Drop them off and I tell them to enjoy the snacks and I'll be right back as I'm going to set fire to the old stuff I ripped out of the house. While he was gone for a chemo treatment someone broke into his house and stole all of his pain medication. He spits into my mouth and makes me swallow it while he lays on top of me. I was a part of the foster care system in South Korea, and the foster home I lived in was great. I slip the knife from under the pillow and hid it under the covers. A really shitty thing Linda did to me was force me to wash the bed and the carpet of all the blood from Ben. When I first arrived I was told by Linda that another boy will be sharing my room with me and he was away at camp for the week. There, she endured ECT until she was temporarily blinded. What I want is anyone reading this to take away that abuse is never ok, EVER! I got in contact with the local fire department to find out what I needed to do in order to burn a house down on my property. Physical abuse typically included ââwelcoming partiesââ; which saw boys beaten up on their first night, followed by regular and continuing physical and sometimes sexual abuse. Ben had put his money in my pocket after he knocked me out and I have no idea what else might have happened to me during that time. As an adult I volunteer a lot to help underprivileged kids in my area. I told them what they are seeing is just a fraction of the pain they had caused me over the course of my life and I want them to know what a fraction of my pain feels like as I could never fully make them understand. Local News; First Nations women sue government over alleged horrific abuse by foster parents. Linda knows that he's abusive to my sister and has told her she needs to obey him as he will be her husband. They fostered boys to work on their farm and treated them like slaves. Spectacular story and great revenge. In January 2001, five-year-old Logan Marr was found dead in the basement of her foster mother's home in Chelsea, Maine. Share on Reddit; Share on Linked In; Andrew McRae, Reporter. I could have handled it better but I had a lot of anger issues and waking up at least weekly to having that little shit urinating on my face while giggling his fcking face off pushed me over the edge. Telling everyone that what I had said was the truth and we ran out of the church together. She tells me that my sister's fiance is abusive to her and she wants to call the wedding off but Linda told her she couldn't and not to embarrass her at the church. She tells me how I can get funding to go here and how she can get my housing tonight. With them evicted and now that all the belongs have stayed in the house past 30 days, I now own all of it. I'm standing beside them while they eat and chat with me about life and what I've been doing with my career. He then grabbed me and tossed me into the pool and I screamed for help. Public Service minister Chris Hipkins addresses the Royal Commission of Inquiry into Abuse in State and Faith-based Care. I ran to tell Linda and he quickly ran out of the room after me. Just to let you know now, this was more of a work camp instead of a loving and caring home. One survivor recounted an experience in a boysâ home where staff would take the children to view the dead bodies of other residents who had killed themselves. Take care of yourself. Looks like you're using new Reddit on an old browser. We go into a room where my parents are and paperwork is on the table. He was subjected to violence and sexual abuse while at the Epuni Boys' Home in the 1970s. The water was easy but it took awhile for the power because they had to remove all the wires running to the pole and remove the transformer. He tried to force his penis into my mouth. This was an AMAZING revenge, and an awesome read as well. They will lie and put you down to hold control over you. It takes less than 20 minutes for the house to collapse into a heap of junk. Linda then loudly exclaims that I'm a known liar and everyone knows they can't believe a word I say. We arrive at the social workers office and go in with Linda. At the surprise adoption my jaw dropped, but at your revenge I was truly cheering. Survivors distressed by watching the abuse and who tried to intervene were punished. I come across a school in a shopping center and I decided to check it out. When I did get home I was punished to clean out this old crappy garbage bin they have behind the home and it was full of loose garbage from bags getting ripped. This one kept my attention the whole time. Also remember that Linda's 20 something son Jay lives with her as well. In this episode of The Detail podcast, RNZ talks to Aaron Smale, who has spent five years tracking down and reporting stories of state care abuse. The next morning when I got up with my face hurting and my mouth busted I ran to tell Linda what he did to me. All I've ever done was go to school and work on a farm. At this point I'm about ten years old or so and I try to explain to her what happened. Her husband had passed away in the 80s. In the foster care system it's not uncommon to see a child stay with us just for a week and then be released back to the family, so we had different kids come and go all the time. Once her sight returned, she was shocked again. I was crushed by this news as my father was my hero. Like 31 percent of children who enter the foster care system every year in the U.S., Stephanie's family had been torn apart by substance abuse. The report released by auditors last week showed that rates of child abuse continue to climb in Oregon's foster care system, and that DHS has no centralized process for investigating claims of abuse. Me and my sister were taken from our home when I was 7 and she was 4. Judge Coral Shaw, the chair of the Royal Commission of Inquiry into abuse in care. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. RNZ put a series of questions to SNAP, which canvassed some of its members for responses. This is by far the best revenge I have ever read. The Royal Commission into Abuse in Care in 2020 held public hearings on both State care abuse which was followed by hearings into abuse carried out by churches. After she left Linda told me she's going to make me pay for this and it might not be today but one day (remember this phrase). The report was released in two volumes, with the second analysing the experiences of 50 survivors who shared their accounts of abuse in private sessions with commissioners. I drive up the weekend of the wedding and get a hotel room about an hour outside of where we grew up. All of the boys worked the farms of Dean and we didn't get to bed until about 11PM. I sit in the main back of the van in silence and not shedding a tear. We would get dropped off at the social workers office where our parents would walk with us to the local park and play. I go down the the courthouse with Jay and I finish all of the paper work with Karia. I picked up my bag and walked up the sidewalk and I'm trying to figure out what I'm going to do. Later that week when we went to the social workers office for our visitation with my parents I told the social worker what happened to the girl and she pulled me into a private room to talk about it. No need for gold, if anything donate your time to kids :) I tried to give the best timeline I could of major events. He held my nose shut so that I couldn't breath and I had no choice but to open my mouth. Linda didn't keep foster kids anymore because of her age she wasn't allowed to so they didn't have any money coming in besides disability and SSI. I felt chills run down my spine and I was really in complete shock. Sorry your time in the foster care was so horrible. I told her I was going to tell the social workers and she said if I did she would claim it never happened. She told me I'm telling lies and I should be ashamed of myself. Each day of my life was a living hell. After regaining consciousness survivors would wake to find people sexually assaulting them. I had to scrub the bedroom, kitchen and bathroom as punishment. I'm glad they had someone who listened to here and didn't screw the kids over. I get in my car and drive back home knowing that they have now lost almost everything they have. It was like Uber but it was limited as to where they would take you and how often. I felt a relief sensation rush over my body, I'm free! So getting out of high school I would be 19 years old. My original idea was just to buy the property and kick them out. If you're being abused do not listen to the people abusing you. Raising tobacco isn't an easy job by any means and it's even harder when your just a kid. #35 South Korean Care. Please understand that I had never been outside of my home town before this. If she would have done her job then I could have had a new chance at life. All of the noise woke Linda up and Jay told her the caught me sneaking into the girls room. She told me not to say a word to the cops about what happened and to go back to bed. He told me he was on his way to pick me and my sister up to go see him. I have no words to describe the empathy I feel or the frustration that a human would be capable of treating a child like you were. I met with the officers closing the road off let them know I was about to begin and they might encounter some family members trying to get by them and not to let them. I then went behind and started fires from under the house with packed straw. I was able to see him before he died and he could squeeze my hand to let me know he could understand me. The drugging and extensive use of ECT made it difficult for anyone to report the abuse because it left their minds âgroggyâ or âdestroyedâ. I tell them I would rather be dead then to be adopted by her and the social worker told me she understands my anger because I hate to obey rules. We get about 4 hours into the trip and Linda is getting frustrated. I made sure to tell him how much I loved him and I promise to make him proud. The next day when we arrived home her car was sitting in our driveway. I was given up by a single mom, which carries a very negative stigma in Korean society. Again, I’m so sorry for what you had to endure, but I’m I guess proud (as an internet stranger can be) that even though everything was against you that you were able to take life by the horns and succeed and even get back at those who wronged you so horrendously. Remember that this foster home keeps boys and girls from all walks of life. You never had time to do any school work after you got home because you had to eat and then get back outside. A young boy who had experienced âextremeâ psychological and physical abuse drove a car off a cliff, smashing head-on into a bank, in an attempt to take his own life. While the social worker was away Linda tells me she knows what I've done and I'm going to wish I had never opened my mouth. I easily win and now have instant ownership of the propriety. The school isn't even around today and was shut down because it a for profit school that gave you no value, and of course I had no idea at the time. Linda had fallen behind on the property taxes because she was giving the money to Jay to pay it. They told us if we ever left we would end up in and out of jail because we are just as worthless as our parents. When I arrived to the house I told Linda how I regret being a horrible child and now that I'm older I've grown out of it. At the knifing BB part I knew this would be a ride. I had no real education and hardly made it out of school. I told him I didn't know how to swim and I can't because of my obvious broken arm. When she confronted him about it he said I was trying to steal his money and he smacked me for it. Her only daughter was Sandy and she was very kind to us. In an interim report of the findings released yesterday, as part of the five-year inquiry, more horrifying details were made public of the âwide and disturbingâ range of abuses experienced by children under state care, primarily between 1950 and 1999. When I turned 16 I had been in the foster care system for about 8 years and my parents finally signed us over to the state. "We should never underestimate just how traumatic the experience will have been for the victims. He is also coming to Linda's to pick us up to go and see my parents. I'm finally free! you should have spread salt on the burnt ground so that nothing could grow, like Carthage. She told me if I come out of my room and say anything the cops, they wouldn't believe me because I'm a lair. A recent federal report, which analyzed 80 foster cases from April 1 to Sept. 30, found that the stateâs foster care system is underperforming, the Tampa Bay Times reported. Breadcrumb Trail Links. And your revenge didn’t leave a sick taste afterwards like so many that go over the top do. Foster care and child welfare laws vary from state to state. I did this for a few nights and didn't get any sleep hardly. I run to wake up Linda and I told her what happened and she called 911. At this point my sister is about to get married and I'm going to walk her down the aisle at the church Linda always took us to growing up. He said volume two, which was âtotally dedicated to survivorsâ voicesâ gave a lot more weight to the report. She told me she had been flirting with him and she was hungry for sex. These kids have been through enough as it is. At this point I felt broken and alone. When he noticed me he turned pale and then tried to be all buddy buddy with me. I tell him I understand. 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